Famous women share their self-care rituals18 May 2018 - inspiration
Self-care may be a popular topic, with everyone talking about how it’s vital for our physical, mental and emotional wellbeing. Neglecting self-care leads to common problems such as burnout, stress and a lack of focus. Yet, rather than making it a habit, we often choose not to prioritise it. This may be due to a number of reasons: hectic lives, a culturally conditioned guilt of slowing down, or a perception that self-care is too difficult to practise every day.
In actual fact, self-care doesn’t have to involve meditation retreats or living in a remote cabin. It can be as simple as eating healthy snacks, taking a break, or making sure to shower every day because you know you feel good after. What recharges you and makes you feel good about yourself? Do what works for you. As Beyoncé says, “Take time for yourself without feeling guilty or selfish. The world will see you the way you see you, and treat you the way you treat yourself.” If you need some inspiration or tips, here are the self-care practices of notable individuals, including Beyoncé, Michelle Obama and Emma Watson.
Emma Watson (actress) on taking baths:
“I have a bath every single day of my life. And if I can have two or three—amazing. Nothing terrible is going to happen in the bath, so I always find time for that. I’ll take phone conversations in the bath, anything.”
Michelle Obama (former First Lady of the United States) on taking a break and finding support:
“Sometimes I give myself a break. I will retreat a moment from the fray, just to breathe. Because what I’ve learned is that my immediate reaction cannot be the deciding reaction. And while I’m stepping back, I talk. I reach out to my friends, my mom; I vent, I release, I have sounding boards, I get pep talks from colleagues and staff, and then I go back in. We each have to find our own coping mechanisms. It’s almost like sports. You get a time-out, you go on the sidelines, but you’re going to get back in.”
Emma Stone (actress) on self-compassion:
“I remind myself to be kind to myself, [and] to treat myself in the same gentle way I’d want to treat a daughter of mine. It really helps.”
Kerry Washington (actress) on being open to love, eating well and practising gratitude:
“Sometimes, when we’re feeling challenged in life, we feel a pull to isolate, but part of the joy of being a wife, a mother and in a cast of friends is allowing myself to be in spaces of love. Being open to that love. [Self-care is also asking myself:] Am I sleeping enough? Eating well? Not: Am I eating well to be able to fit into my skinny jeans. [Rather]: Am I eating well to be healthy and strong? [Self-care is also about] acknowledging the good, because there is always a lot of good.”
Anne Lamott (author) on taking small, loving actions:
“90 percent of my life [is] radical self-care. Put your own oxygen mask on first. I watch the self-talk that goes through my mind, and if I am being critical with myself, I shake myself out of it.
I do for myself exactly what I would do for you—make a lovely cup of tea, or a hot bath, or go buy myself a fabulous pair of socks. I believe that you take the action, and THEN the insight follows. I do loving things for me, stroke my own shoulder, put myself down for a short nap, and the insight follows: that I am a wild precious woman, a ‘human merely being’, as E. E. Cummings put it, deserving of respect, tenderness, protection, delight, and solidarity.”
Tracee Ellis Ross (actress) on having a beauty regime:
“My beauty regime is a huge part of how I care for myself. It’s about getting my sleep and drinking lots of water. I’m big on hydrating internally and externally, so there’s a lot of oils and hydration that I use. I’m the girl on the plane who will go wash my hands, spritz, and add a layer.”
Precious Lee (model) on self-affirmations and doing things just for yourself:
“Saying affirmations and dancing while [looking at] the mirror has become part of my self-care routine. Dancing in general makes me feel present and alive, but adding in positive sayings to myself makes me feel empowered before starting my day. Even if you aren’t a dancing machine (and if you aren’t, try it!), looking in the mirror and saying something as simple as ‘I am amazing, I will conquer this meeting today, I’m inspiring, I’m capable’ can put you in the right place mentally and emotionally before you leave your home.
The dancing part just makes things more fun and freeing. Society can beat you up with all the stereotypes and ideals, but when you have something you do for yourself to combat that on a regular basis, you will realise that you are an indomitable spirit.”
Audrey Gelman (businesswoman and political staffer) on doing the small, everyday things that make a difference:
“I know that when I’m taking care of myself and engaging in self-care, even if it’s just making sure to shower consistently, it actually has a real impact on my mood. That’s mainly the reason why I do it.”
Gisele Bündchen (model) on pausing and meditation:
“After adding everyone’s schedule on the calendar, I make sure that every day I have some sacred time for myself, so I can recharge. I noticed every time I felt overwhelmed I would hold my breath. I had to learn to stop, relax and take long deep breaths and within seconds I would feel more clear and ready to deal with the situation in a more loving way. Meditation also has been a wonderful tool. I notice that when I don’t take the time to do it, I am not as centred, patient or clear.”
Karlie Kloss (model and businesswoman) on exercising:
“Really making time to take care of myself, to exercise, is ironically relaxing to me because it actually allows me to kind of just have a natural release of endorphins and release of stress.”
Lily Collins (actress) on opening up to others as a form of self-care:
“I think it’s important to relate to one another about issues that you’re having, because the second you open up and someone else says, ‘Oh, me too. I feel the same way,’ then all of a sudden, you feel more at peace with yourself and you can feel more confident with who you are.”
Beyoncé (singer) on reflection:
“Take at least twenty minutes every day to be still and quiet…Think. Reflect. Decide how to be smarter and tougher, how to be more committed and considerate of others and more sensitive and aware of your surroundings. Choose something you learned that will make you a better person.”
What self-care practices do you have? Inspire us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
- The Mindful Company Team